Not only is it important to care for the whole-self; mind, body, heart and spirit as part of optimizing your health and well-being, it is also important to bring wellness to all major areas of life, including relationships. Relationships have a huge impact on mindset and emotions, both of which impact your health!

So how do you know if you are in an unhealthy relationship? Some of the practitioners who specialize in relationships and mental health on our platform weighed in and answered these questions to help guide you on answering that critical question for yourself –

Are there signs to watch out for with an unhealthy relationship?

It is important to pay attention to how you feel when you are around the person you are in a relationship with. If spending time with them leaves you feeling bad about yourself or upset consistently, it is time to take an honest look at the relationship – both the part you play as well as theirs.

When is it time to seek help for an unhealthy relationship?

I recommend getting support, guidance and clarity with relationships whenever difficulty is present. Most people have a limited perspective because they are only able to see and experience the relationship from their own vantage point. Outside support from a professional can help you gain new tools to identify and resolve the relationship patterns you have. Healthy relationships take intentionality and growth from both parties.

When is it time to end an unhealthy relationship?

Each person needs to decide when it is time to end a relationship. That is not a choice someone else can make for you. The best way to determine if it is time to say goodbye to an unhealthy relationship is by looking within, being honest with yourself and asking yourself, ‘If this relationship (or this person) was never any better or different than it is right now, could I live with it this way’?

Not all relationships are meant to last forever, some are powerful growth opportunities that teach you something you need to learn in order to grow your capacity for healthier, deeper, more fulfilling relationships in the future.

What is self-sabotaging in relationships?

Self-sabotage often stems from a need to stay safe and in control. Within relationships, self-sabotage is often driven by fear, negative experiences from the past or even unhealthy relationship examples or trauma from within childhood. It is a form of self-protection but unfortunately becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy that destroys relationships.

How do you know when it’s time for you to seek therapy to work through your self-sabotage issues?

At any time when you identify a habit or pattern that no longer serves you or that does not lead to healthy, fulfilling relationships it is a time to do work within yourself to resolve the root issue. This may mean working with a therapist or even a life coach. Get the support you need. Simply reading self-help books doesn’t always provide the tools and insight needed for deep healing.

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